Philippa Levitt - Transformational Relationship Coach
Personal Coaching in Johannesburg

Online and private relationship counselling.
Get over your divorce or any relationship breakdown, make peace with your heart, heal your heart, access immense clarity, get out of that stuck place, ditch the drama and take a quantum leap towards creating relationships that you love.

We prefer to listen to our storyteller and get caught up in our old worn stories about what is happening, rather than being with what is actually happening. How do you meet it so that it can flow through you without you getting caught up in its drama? It’s a skill to develop to be able to meet your experience, especially where you are going through a divorce or relationship breakdown, to move towards it instead of away from it by eating over it, drinking over it, working over it, watching TV over it to name but a few ways that we avoid actually feeling and being with what’s going on for us. Its about learning to respect and honour what is happening and doing a U turn and turning towards that which we naturally want to run away from. In the process, things become much less scary and you become much stronger. You can only do this once you understand that we are not separate from Life and that Life is Safe (even though it includes pain) and that you cannot control Life. O’ Malley says it is a gigantic leap in our awakening when we realize that our suffering does not come from what is happening in our lives. You just need to bring the light of your curious attention to yourself. Not only does Spiritual Divorce, which was originally published in 2001, speak to the concepts that are now being defined as conscious uncoupling, but more than that it really dwells in the conversation of why we pick the person we do and create the kind of relationship that we experience. It truly explains and brings light to our tendency to unconsciously couple! Spiritual Divorce is based on the premise that we learn about ourselves through our relationships. The fact is that most of us cannot see ourselves, therefore the people that come into our lives are there for a reason. And it is the people closest to us that are our most perfectly positioned mirrors. So instead of getting upset with our partners and our circumstances, we need to recognize that everything is as it should be and that we actually called in the perfect partners and co-created these relationships for own personal growth and evolution. Journal about a significant relationship that still feels incomplete. If you want to go further, continue journaling by dwelling in the conversation of why this person and this relationship was the perfect person and relationship to teach you these lessons. This is the dawning of a whole new understanding of relationships, divorce and a powerful way forward.